CJ De Barra (they/them) is a queer, neurodivergent, non-binary author and journalist from West Cork but based in Nottingham. They are the author of the book Neuroqueer: A Neurodivergent Guide to Love, Sex and Everything in Between and the founder of the Notts Queer History Project. In 2026, they were named as a Top 10 Role Model by Diva Magazine.
Description
How am I supposed to flirt? Am I overdoing it? How do I find someone who truly gets me? Dating and relationships can be tough, especially if you are queer, trans, neurodivergent or all of the above. From reading social cues in queer flirting and coping with rejection sensitivity, to dopamine-seeking in intimacy and navigating the 'what we are?' conversation, being autistic and having ADHD might make it feel like finding and maintaining connections is harder for you than your neurotypical friends. CJ De Barra has been on a personal journey of radical self-acceptance, learning how to love their neuroqueer self. Drawing from their experience, professional expertise and interviews with other neuroqueer people, this is the essential guide to dating, sex and maintaining relationships for those who think (and love) outside the box.